Saying Goodbye

Dad rarely did anything mundane. Unless it was eating a burger at Murphy’s. Even the pandemic age in which he declined was unique. Dad chose a strange yet remarkable time to die.

Dad complained in his sunset days that he couldn’t taste anything, his eyesight grew dim, he couldn’t feel much of anything in his feet, but he never lost his heart, his memory, his connection to those he loved.

One of the enduring images of watching his earthly body fade was Mom reading Facebook comments to him. Mom often read to all six of us in the car on vacations, assorted books, Reader’s Digest jokes, the Bible. It was this traveling voice in the car she used as she read hundreds of your comments to Dad in the past few weeks.

The evening before Dad died, we were talking about how Dad received such a blessing of stories and encouragement. And while the simple act of presence, of hugs and tears and touch, cannot be replaced in this moment of loss, you gave my Dad such a blessing through your words!

One of my happiness childhood memories was sitting in an IHOP about an hour from Cincinnati. I asked my Dad for a dime to buy a newspaper and immediately turned to the sports page while eating a stack of pancakes with blackberry syrup. I said to nobody in particular, “Hey, the Cards are playing the Reds in Cincy!” And Dad said let’s go. He was flexible, different, more playful on vacations away from the stress and details of running a construction business. That’s how I remember him today as we say goodbye. My Dad will always be the young strong clear skinned Dad…the one who took us on vacations, and knew how to fold a road map with one hand, and took the curves up Pikes Peak on two wheels. 

Today as I watch the sun come up, I think about how blessed we have been by so many who have called, texted, messaged, and commented. Thank you for giving Mom and Dad such a great gift of presence and love!

Today we say goodbye, but the last few days have been a balm to our souls. Thank you!

10 thoughts on “Saying Goodbye

  1. We will see you again one day Terrell Taylor. Goodbye for now our friend.

    II Thessolonians 4:13-18

    13 But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.

    14 For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

    15 For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

    16 For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

    17 Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

    18 Wherefore comfort one another with these words.

  2. Brent,
    These are such beautiful words about your dad. I can just picture all of this as I read your story. He was truly a remarkable man.
    I’m praying for Charlotte and all of you as you say your final good-bye to your dad.
    The memories will never leave, which is such a
    beautiful blessing from our awesome God.

  3. My buddy Terrel knew how to be a true friend
    He will always be on my heart as I think about all of the good times we had together
    His generosity is unequaled and I know the good Lord is smiling as He welcomes him home
    Love you guys
    Gj

  4. Been thinking of the you and the family this week. The Taylor family is loved by so many! Hold everyone close. The Taylor kids are the products of hard work and a lot of love! What a wonderful legacy. Give my love to everyone, especially your mom.

  5. I thought I had shed all my tears but your words brought back happy tears. Thank you for Beautifully expressing the joy I feel In knowing how blessed he felt as he listened to words of love, Proverbs 1624 pleasant words are like a honeycomb. They make a person happy and healthy.
    Love, Mom

  6. I thought I had shed all my tears but your words brought back happy tears. Thank you for Beautifully expressing the joy I feel In knowing how blessed he felt as he listened to words of love, Proverbs 1624 pleasant words are like a honeycomb. They make a person happy and healthy.
    Love, Mom

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